About Me

Throughout my life, I’ve experienced both profound loss and meaningful renewal. What ultimately shaped my work wasn’t success or failure on their own, but learning how deeply perspective determines what becomes possible after either one.

I was raised in a stable, loving home by my mother and stepfather, both of whom I lost within a two-year span shortly after their retirement—each to smoking-related illness. The grief was sharp and disorienting. But over time, those losses taught me something deeper than the obvious lessons about health. They taught me how easy it is to drift into patterns that feel normal—until the cost becomes undeniable.

For much of my early adulthood, I took my own health and direction for granted. I ate without awareness, moved without intention, and slowly became someone I didn’t recognize. The turning point didn’t come from willpower alone, but from a reckoning: I could keep telling myself comforting stories, or I could tell the truth. That choice led to sustained change—losing fifty pounds, keeping it off, and reclaiming a physical life I now enjoy fully, including competing regularly with people decades younger than me.

That same pattern repeated across other areas of my life. I graduated with significant student debt, then methodically reshaped my financial reality through disciplined decisions and long-term thinking. I faced a career setback that forced me to question how I was operating, not just where I was working. When I changed my approach—rather than blaming circumstances—momentum returned.

The most defining transformation came during the darkest chapter of my life. I was laid off from my job the same week my wife underwent surgery to remove a cancerous brain tumor. What followed was years of treatments, setbacks, and the slow erosion of the person I loved as her physical, cognitive, and emotional capacities declined. That period stripped away any illusion of control I still carried. It also confronted me with a choice: collapse into self-pity or learn how to live truthfully inside reality as it actually was.

I chose the harder path. Over time, I learned to grieve without being consumed by it, to accept what I could not change, and to take responsibility for how I would live next. After that chapter ended, I rebuilt—awkwardly and imperfectly at first—eventually finding love, connection, and a depth of intimacy I didn’t know was possible.

Across all of these experiences, a clear pattern emerged. When one area of life is ignored or distorted, the effects ripple outward. When clarity, responsibility, and alignment are restored in one place, they spread. Transformation is not about fixing everything at once. It’s about seeing clearly, choosing differently, and allowing small, truthful changes to compound over time.

That is the work I now do with others.

Honu Perspective exists at the intersection of lived experience and intentional practice. My role as a transformational coach is not to motivate, rescue, or prescribe—but to help people see what they’ve been avoiding, accept what is real, reclaim agency, and move forward in alignment with what matters most.

I work with people who are ready—not for quick fixes—but for honest change. If you’re prepared to let go of perspectives and patterns that no longer serve you, and to engage your life with clarity and responsibility, I’d be honored to walk alongside you.